The Proposal: The TV Show that Made me Cringe

Confession: Ever since I watched Big Brother Africa about 16 years ago, I have grown to like some reality shows and been watching several of them on both local and satellite television. Mainly out of curiosity, I have seen (and continue to see) Fear Factor, America’s Next Top Model, The Voice (UK), Hell’s Kitchen, Chopped, Come Dine with Me and several others. I love the competitiveness and the seeming ‘realness’ of ordinary people on TV who may be working hard to win a prize/reward. I also love the critiquing sessions by the judges, although I feel they are sometimes unfair. Other negatives in some of these shows are the foul languages that are used (Hell’s Kitchen) and the vices which are portrayed as the norm.😕

This week, I discovered two reality shows that have kept my mind buzzing. I saw an episode of The Proposal and it had a number of women providing reasons to a mystery suitor on why he should select them for a prospective relationship. The mystery suitor got to see the ladies because he had a screen that showed what was ongoing on stage while the ladies did not have that luxury. The ladies answered questions posed to them by the mystery suitor, wore swimsuits, modelled and kept convincing him (the mystery suitor) to select them over the others. 🤷There were elimination stages, spearheaded by the mystery suitor and influenced by the ‘chemistry’ he thought existed between him and the ladies/contestants. The ladies who made it to the final round got to see the mystery suitor (and whether they liked his appearance of not were stuck to him). The man then finally selected his preferred girl (I have only seen an episode but I hope other shows have women as the mystery suitors with men as the contestants and the men also model in swimsuits so the woman chooses who she likes from the bunch). 💁 I also saw two episodes of Take Me Out which has a similar concept to The Proposal. Several ladies try to get the attention of the man/celebrity for a possible date to Fernandos. They try hard by acting silly and being loud for the celebrity to choose and take them on a date to Fernandos.😂 At least on Take Me Out, the women can press the buzzer if they do not like the man at any stage on the show, which is better than The Proposal.

Seeing The Proposal and Take Me Out got me thinking and asking several questions including the reality of such shows. They are so full of drama that is likely to keep you glued to the TV even though they may not be real, but, what if shows like The Proposal portrayed what was happening in the real world? Are people/women craving badly for relationships or to get picked up by someone to go on dates? I disliked how desperate the women were portrayed in these shows, especially, how they acted even when they had not seen the suitor. Maybe I am just an old-fashioned Christian who thinks a lady should be pursued and she should have the luxury of selecting who she wants to be with. Yes, a woman can make herself noticeable but not to the point of wearing bikinis to model on television in order to be selected by a suitor (one of the ladies actually did a cheerleading routine in her bikini for the mystery man.) ☹️ That was the point that I said “Oh God, please don’t let this be real. Let them be actresses. Don’t allow anyone to believe this.”

These television shows are mostly rated ’13’ and I’ve been wondering how they are likely to influence the younger generation who keep seeing them.☹️ In order of importance, Comedian and Entertainer, Trevor Noah, joked that Americans ranked Sports first, the Kardashians second, their President third and their troops fourth. Even though it may sound funny, that is how some entertainers and forms of entertainment may be influencing a whole generation. 😥

Have you seen any television show that made you cringe? What was it about? Let’s get talking. 😊

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Help! My Resolution to Get Married Never Materialises – Worried Lady

Hello CBG¹,

I am 34 years old, gainfully employed but tired of making new resolutions particularly in the area of settling down. In previous years, I made every conscious effort to get married. I have even written down what I would like to see in my dream man. I go through that list every day and I pray for him, but, it’s been six long unsuccessful years of searching for that ‘dream man.’ I am really tired and have decided not to make any resolutions regarding that subject this year. Since you’ve been preaching about planning and making resolutions, what do you advise I do? Should I still make resolutions and get disappointed or simply relax and see what God will do?

– A very worried lady

CBG’s Response

Hello Miss,

Marriage, as an institution, was created by God and His idea for the majority of people. Not everyone will get married, though, but as long as it is in your heart to be married then it is part of what grace has made available to you. The provisions that are given under grace does not work in isolation but work in tandem with faith. Faith is what causes you to receive the things that grace has already made available. Thus, if you say you made a resolution the previous year to be married and it didn’t materialise so you wouldn’t be deliberate about that subject anymore then I’m afraid you are never going to get married. What you need to do is to keep praying and remain visible to the circle of men in your various levels of socialization. Package yourself nicely while keeping the vision and desire alive. Once the vision and desire exist and as long as it is a provision under grace, then it means it is within your reach and you need to lay hold of it by faith. Faith is dead if it is not accomplished with works. The Bible says that if the clouds are full of rain, they empty themselves (Ecclesiastes 11:3). Keep doing what you are doing, remain visible, continue praying and eventually, you’ll find somebody.

Note: In case you were not deliberate about this subject previously, plan to be more visible this year. If your location does not necessarily get you exposed to meeting a man, then you need to go to places where you’ll meet them. Getting to those places will be influenced by your values and the idea of a man who’d like to get married to. It’s good to know you have a perception of who your dream man is but if you find yourself in the wrong places, you’d definitely meet the wrong people. Ensure you go to the right places and are in the right environment so you meet the person you want to be married to. Ruth was deliberate and she met Boaz (Ruth 2).

All the best and remember to invite us to your wedding. ☺️

Do you have any piece of advice to share with this lady? Post it in the comment box.

CBG¹: Christian Blog Ghana

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On My Playlist Right Now – December, 2018

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Music continues to play a vital role in our Christian lives. To think that God actually had an angel who was made of musical instruments, tells us how important music is to our father. As men, we will always find comfort, encouragement and a means to worship our creator through music.

This month #OnMyPlaylistRightNow comes with an interesting twist. We had the Admin at The Christian Blog Ghana, tell us all about her favorite music. As usual, we believe this will help us choose new music for our playlists. Introducing, Delali Sogah and her top five artists.

My Top 5 (plus 1) Music Artists – by Delali Sogah

I love music and my choice of music changes depending on my mood, the time of day it is, as well as the situation I find myself in. Don’t be shocked if you hear me mention different names or artists as…

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Lightening Up 2019: Bro Philemon Drops 4 Hit Tracks

Born on October 15th, 1980 in the suburbs of Manse, Kumasi in the Ashanti Region of Ghana, Ishmael Philemon Ackon, popularly known as Bro Philemon has enjoyed the influence of music through the church. It is no wonder the gospel musician, performer, songwriter and producer has released four new songs which are already making waves in this new year. His parents, Beatrice Ivy Ackon and the late Reverend Emmanuel Eddie E. Ackon, were members of the Methodist Church who played various roles in the gospel musician’s successful career.

Bro Philemon is currently a worship leader at the Shenzhen International Fellowship in China where he resides with his wife Mary Joy Yap Dugaduga and children Beatrice Ivy-Joy Ackon and Trixie Efua-Otuah Ackon.

The multiple gospel award-winner is also a businessman and the Chief Executive Officer of P & D MPC HK Co. Limited (Hong Kong) and Philemon’s Supply Management SZ Co. Limited (Shenzhen, China).

His four new songs feature popular names like Akesse Brempong, Amy Newman and Jeremy Rayborn Hall. These songs are already receiving massive airplay and they include:

The Song & The Dance featuring Jeremy Rayborn Hall (Download Here):  

‘Your Name’ featuring Akesse Brempong (Download Here)

‘Sweetest Name Remix’ feat Amy Newman (Download Here)

‘Higher Ground’ (Download Here)

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2019: To Make Plans or not to Make Plans

It’s another new year and the debate on whether to make plans or resolutions has started (as usual 🤷). I have been on both sides before. There have been years where I had nothing on paper because I believed God had the ultimate plan for my life. I was ‘comfortably living out’ Jeremiah 29:11 😊

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Of course, God was the master planner and so what was my role? Nothing much. Just acting out His plan and in those years, I really had nothing to show on 31st December. There were other years that I wrote my new resolutions on sheets of papers that I never bothered to look for. Those years were equally ordinary but last year, I did something very different that worked and in 2019, I am building on it and that is what I am going to share with you.

At the beginning of 2018, I wrote down what would define a successful year for me on a whiteboard which was strategically placed close to my bed. That board also served as a planner for this blog and the delight that came with checking out those milestones was amazing. I always had a broad smile whenever I crossed out my ‘little’ successes.

I had my overall goals for the year written at the top and at the bottom were monthly plans as well as objectives for this blog. For instance, after I read a book and conducted a review for the blog, I crossed that out. When I planned to interview people for the blog and I successfully executed it, I crossed that out. Those moments felt like big achievements for me and I never failed to thank God and also pat myself at the back. They weren’t easy to do and they came with a lot of sacrifices but the joy of crossing and updating them monthly made it fun.

This year, my plans are even more elaborate. They have been grouped under several headings including personal, career, Christian life, blogger among others because I am living out Habakkuk 2:2,

Then the LORD told me: “I will give you my message in the form of a vision. Write it clearly enough to be read at a glance. 

I am going to lean on God’s grace and also put in my effort because I know His plans will reign supreme, therefore, I will keep communicating with Him to ensure we are on the same page. Note, Proverbs 19:21 says:

Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.

My little advice: Don’t leave this year to chance. If huge organisations are setting S-M-A-R-T goals and targets and achieving them, how much more your personal life? God would love to see you succeed. When Elisha in 2 Kings 4 went to the widow’s house, he asked her what she had in her house and she responded:

“Your maidservant has nothing in the house but a jar of oil.”

The jar of oil served as a channel for the widow’s blessings. Talk to God regularly and let Him know what you have in your ‘house’ and heart in 2019. Create that plan. Place it somewhere visible and work on achieving them and that could be the conduit for your blessing. I recently read a post on Facebook about a man who created a 10-year educational plan when he only had a Diploma. He did not have the funds readily available but worked on the plan nonetheless and currently has a PhD. Isn’t that amazing?

Remember to engage with God constantly to ensure you are on the right path and 2019 will not be an ordinary year like previous ones.

P.S: Happy and Blessed New Year from us to you. Those following our other social media platforms have seen this appreciation note and here is yours:

Thank you 😘

It promises to be an exciting year for the blog and if I were you, I will keep telling others about it.

Happy New Year. May this year bring all that you’ve been praying for in Jesus’name! 😘😘😘

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Our 3rd Wedding Anniversary and the 3 Lessons We’ve Learnt

19th December marked our wedding anniversary. Last year, I wrote a letter to my husband to mark our second anniversary but this year, we (my husband and I) would like to share three lessons we have discovered in the three years of being married. Please find my (Delali’s) lessons first: ☟

Lesson 1: Different Prayer Dynamics Needed for Marriage’s Success

I have never underestimated the importance of prayer to the success of every marriage but I discovered sometime last year that I had relegated personal prayer time to the background and was depending solely on my husband’s and family’s prayer times. This can happen to any family, particularly, if the head of the household is a strong Christian and you have regular family praying times. It, however, occurred to me that I needed to pray in order to become a better wife, a better mum and I needed to pray to commit my own ambitions into God’s hands. Yes, it is very important to pray as a family unit but it is also necessary to have your own prayer and quiet times. God may have words for you as you go on your knees to pray for you and your family.

Secondly, I knew where I wanted to be for instance, in my career, before I met my husband. He also had his own ambitions and dreams and marriage became that intercession for both of us. Even though we work hard to accommodate each other’s goals, sometimes it becomes challenging. In such instances, instead of praying selfish prayers of binding and losing when it is time to make sacrifices or accept my husband’s dreams (the very difficult ones) I rather pray for the ability to accept those changes and for God’s will to be done for the family.

Lesson 2: It is Possible to Do Everything and be Successful at it as a Mother and a Wife

Uh-huh! It is very much possible to achieve everything. 😊 Let me use me as an example, I am a mother of a two-year-old without any help, I do an 8 am – 4 pm and before that I went back to school (while pregnant). I manage the Social Media platforms for my church and currently leading a team to gather content for its magazine which will come out next year. I have this blog and its social media platforms to manage which I feed with original content and I am a WIFE😊. How do I combine these? I sacrifice a lot of sleep and I have a supportive husband. I also plan ahead of time and sleep a lot when I realise my body needs it. Do I get overwhelmed at times? Yes, I do and when that happens, I turn off my data and throw my phone away. I am strongly convicted that the world doesn’t wait for anyone because they are a wife or a mother. It is even tougher for us but no one should make excuses. We can be successful in every area of our lives. All things are possible – Matthew 19:26

Lesson 3: Sex in Movies are a Scam

Raise your hands if you believed having sex could as spontaneous and effortless as how we saw in movies or read from books while growing up. Don’t be deceived. Sex in marriage and, particularly, if you have a toddler involves a lot of strategies and tactics (blog post for another day). And if you have to combine that with the various roles you need to play, then it becomes very challenging and requires more effort than what is seen in movies.

Those are the three lessons I (Delali) have picked up so far. Below is my husband's (Emmanuel) perspective on the three years of our marriage:

Our 3rd wedding anniversary: What I have learnt so far – Emmanuel

  1. To have success in marriage, for me, has always been about following the principles outlined in the Bible. I’d often impress on her (Delali) that our wedding vows meant so much to me than her because the day it loses its value, she also loses value (take a second look at your wedding vow). The years spent together have been awesome during which I have mostly been occupied with giving my life for her because I love her (Don’t get it twisted; read Ephesians 5:25). Nothing short of seeing her smile and beam with joy. I gave, I am giving and would give. If you don’t give as a husband, “Wetin you gain”. Cheers to many more years of giving. (Editor’s Remarks: I can attest. Indeed, this man is a giver🤣).
  2. Delali epitomizes submission. (Editor’s Remarks:😑) For a woman like her, I would move heaven to make her happy ( I think I’m doing well so far). She never calls me ‘me wura’ (My Lord) but makes me feel like one. No man would exchange this for anything in this world (at least I won’t). I remember saying jokingly (after watching a Nigerian movie) that I won’t eat stale food in my house. ‘Like joke like joke’ (let me sound like a Ghanaian small) she cooks fresh food every day. Hardly do we eat stored food. How she does it I don’t know.
  3. Then we welcomed Lady Charis. The adorable young lady who turned two recently. Her introduction was met with mixed emotions (at least for me). Routines changed, sleep patterns were altered amongst others. Man know thyself, as intimated by the Bible (Psalm 31:7) just hit me (a story for another day). Our lives changed, however, we have been able to manage it well, steering our affairs in the right direction and maintaining the original purpose of marriage.
So there you have it. Here are some lessons we have learned in our three years of marriage. Are you married? What are some of the lessons you have picked up? Do you intend to get married soon? What are your expectations? Share with us in the comment box.

Gospel Sensation Michael Johnson Releases ‘Adom bi K3k3’

Dropping the latest album which seems to be an immediate hit in the Ashanti, Brong Ahafo and other regions in Ghana is gospel artist, Michael Johnson. MJ seems to have made waves with the album’s hit song ‘Adom Bi k3k3.’

The album, which was dropped just three days ago, has already provided Ghanaians with a toe-tapping melody and several other reasons to sing and praise God.

Minister Michael Johnson’s Album’s cover photo

The artist who is signed onto the Action Records Production headed by Desmond Osei Assibey and based in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania has linked his success to the grace and power of God, thus, the reason for how far he has come.

Left: Simon Obeng Takyi (Manager).                          Right: Mr Desmond Osei Assibey (Action Records Production USA CEO)

“I always recall how I started my music career some years ago in Kumasi with a desire and a passion to transform lives,” MJ said. “Although the journey has not been easy, I knew God had a purpose and a timing for my life and I am very grateful to Him for making ‘Adom bi k3k3’ a reality.”  

‘Adom bi k3k3’ which means ‘sufficient grace’ is Minister Michael Johnson’s first album under the Ghana- USA records label which also has artists such as Mr PHD of CrossOver (2017) and Isaac Frimpong of Medinkunim (2018) fame.

The cover song is engineered by Bassey Mix, one of Ghana’s number one recording studios and being promoted massively by the Ashanti Gospel Presenters Association (AGPA). This Association is linked to 20 biggest radio stations in the Ashanti region.

“I encourage my fellow gospel artist and everyone else to trust in the Lord, keep focused and above all, wait patiently on the Lord for in His own appointed time, He makes all things beautiful,” 

Michael Johnson

To listen to ‘Adom bi k3k3’ click here. 


For further information and bookings, contact Simon Obeng Takyi of Action Records Production on 0246088664.

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