Guest Post: Pornography. Me. The Church

I love guest posting, I think I am more confident on other people’s blogs than I am on mine. Even though I talk about deep issues on my blog, I think I talk deeper issues in other people’s blogs.

Now, the post: I am a Christian woman, born and raised in a Christian family and was addicted to pornography. I wrote a little bit about it in my book, because I didn’t have the confidence to talk more about it. I was introduced to it when I was very young, in my teens. It became a close companion when I was in the university, that stage when I did not know how to deal with my emotions and sexual desires. After graduating from college, I reached a point where I made a conscious decision to fight it, and so every day, I woke up and prayed to God for help to win the war over this temptation. Currently, I have set my Twitter page in such a way that no inappropriate content appears in my feed because that could trigger unwanted desires. I am always, and consciously on the watch, praying to God to give me strength in this weakness, yet I battle it alone in silence and behind closed doors, like many other Christians.

Now that you know about pornography and me, let’s get to pornography and the church.

In this day and age, where we are loud, open and very bold, you might think we will be talking about this issue. You would think we will be open now that 64% of the people watching porn are between the ages of 13-24 (Barna Group Survey) and the church would know that not just 21 million men are addicted to porn but women and kids are also on this new drug.

Sin is not picky; it goes with anyone who falls for it and as we are being taught in the church to save ourselves for marriage but not being told how we can fight or deal with our hormones, emotions, sexual temptations and desires, we are left in guilt and fight this sin in secrecy. I personally want to advise pastors to talk about this issue because the times are changing but holiness isn’t. Holiness is still the goal and without it no one can see the Father, therefore, pastors need to talk about this openly and make themselves less judgmental and more accepting to the people who watch porn. They should receive and help these people because we, as the body of Christ, all get hurt when one is hurt.

Here are some helpful tips that I use to fight pornography and I know it’ll be useful to you too:

  • Talk to a friend about it and let her/ him keep you accountable
  • Like all other sins, pornography feels good when you are viewing it and then, you feel dirty and guilty later. After sometime, you thirst again for the water that leaves you thirsty still. What I have done is to write down all the ways pornography makes me feel, and how I would feel leaving it, and I have a vision of the woman that I want to be in the future, and how she is affected by the addiction now. This can be posted on the wall as a reminder and to encourage you in your fight.
  • Follow Christian blogs and read books about freedom from pornography addiction (I would recommend some on my blog).
  • Put some sort of control on your phone (I personally use parental control where a friend can act like my parent and get notified when I search anything related to porn, and it blocks my searches and so nothing shows up).
  • Tell your pastor and parents (I am yet to do this too).
  • Write in your journal about your struggles.
  • Connect with others and keep each other accountable.
  • Some things cannot end without prayer and fasting regardless of your level of discipline, and so, pray and fast. I personally have heard testimonies of different people who have been healed by God miraculously, or even slowly from pornography addiction and so I still have hope that there is healing for even me… and You.     

(Now that I have shared this, I think I will be brave enough to talk about this in my blog).   

This is a guest post submitted by Eunice Tossy. Eunice is a 24-year old Tanzanian blogger who is still learning and growing. She shares her experiences on her blog, http://abiblegirl.com/ . You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram : @eunietj and on YouTube: Eunice Tossy.

Politics And The Church: A Collective Effort Towards Social Change (Guest Post)

In almost every ancient history until today, the church and the government have been working side by side in protecting the welfare of the society. There are instances though of the church and the government’s involvement in controversies. We cannot, however, presume that this is always the case. How does a society benefit from the church and the government’s collaboration and leadership

  • Upholding the Law

The laws that are currently existing in our society have been God’s laws elaborated and specifically modified. The Bible is the oldest “law” ever written and it serves as a tool towards civilization. Both the church and the government have responsibilities to uphold these laws in promoting peace and stability within the society. It is only the government-mandated policies that sealed the laws that were written in the Bible so they cannot be interpreted objectively.

  • Nation Building

The church and the government are one when it comes to alleviating poverty and eradicating crimes altogether. It is not just the responsibility of the government to look after its citizens, but the church has that responsibility, too. The homes for the aged, the rehabilitation centres for juvenile delinquents, and the foster homes are just some of the institutions that together, as one, the church and the government can work to reach their goals.

“Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.” – James 1:27

  • Values Formation

“No littering.” “No smoking.” And there are more of these rules that we already grew up with. These are the rules that the government specifically enforced but looking at them from a wider perspective, it is actually about forming good values and creating a formidable character. A character that imbues discipline, respect, and submission to authorities. There are so many instances in the Bible that speak so much of these values. In fact, these are only but some of the values in the Bible that we can use to improve the self and become a better citizen.

  • A Unified Body of Christ

The body of Christ is composed of all of us who occupy a certain part of that body. We cannot claim that engineers are better than doctors, nor teachers than fishermen. Everyone has been given a gift and skill so we can perform on the roles that God assigned us with. It is a collective effort that further God’s greater plans to manifest in our lives, in our nations, and throughout the entire world.

The most controversial question that we can ask at this point is whose authority is most supreme? Is it the church or the government? The answer is both. We cannot separate the church and the government in the context of authority because they are both implementing the same laws one way or the other. Also, if we are to look at history and ancient civilizations, institutions were formed and built around the premise that God is the Supreme Being and leader of all. This means that the primary goal of every constitution is to honour God and His ways.

For example, every oath-taking ceremony for every professional includes this phrase at the end of it: “So help me God.” This will prove that our social duties are never separate from our duties to God as a Christian. They will always be congruent to one another even if future successors will change the laws as they see fit. But what we can be assured of is that there are some of these laws that will remain as they are because God mandated them.

The challenge for ourselves is this: are we fulfilling our obligations as mandated by the law of God reinforced by the laws of man?

This is a guest post by Christine Lailani Ginete – Rome. Christine is a Filipina, a devoted Christian, a faithful wife, a prayer warrior, a teacher, a writer, a hobbyist, and an advocate. On a deeper level, you’ll find her as a believer who’s imperfect but driven to encourage everyone to be a catalyst for social change and serve others through God’s grace, guidance, and prayer. Christine blogs at The Journeyman’s Moments.

Garbage in, Garbage out!

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                   Pastor Ernest Osei                                   Ordained Minister of the Gospel, Journalist, Life Coach, Real Estate Consultant and a Law Student.

Garbage in, garbage out (GIGO), in the context of information technology, is a slang expression that means regardless of how accurate a program’s logic is, the results will be incorrect if the input is invalid.

While the term is most frequently used in the context of software development, GIGO can also be used to refer to any decision-making system where failure to make right decisions with precise, accurate data could lead to wrong, nonsensical results according to Techopedia.

Similarly, as a Christian, what you feed your spirit with is very important as it has a direct reflection on your lifestyle and confessions to a greater extent. Jesus cautions in Matt. 12:34,

“For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks…”

When evil resides in the heart, it will be exposed in perverse speech or language contrary to the truth of God’s word. However, if the heart has been impregnated by the Spirit of God, the mouth will begin to speak like God does! A person’s works produce the fruits, and the heart then is known by what it produces.

Therefore for a Christian to manifest Christ, he/she would need to have the mind, which is a spirit renewed more and more. The Apostle Paul succinctly expresses it in Eph. 4:23

   “…and be renewed in the spirit of your mind”

Once the spirit of your mind is renewed, it is then reconnected to the Spirit of God which would be evidenced outwardly by your lifestyle.

Endeavour to discipline your spirit man always by fasting and the study of God’s word so that your spirit would be rekindled to enable you to connect to the Spirit of God and hear His voice when He speaks!